Our choices speak volumes, not just to others, but to ourselves. That is in part why it is part to be conscious of the words we say and the decisions we make because in every tiny decision we are sending a message about who we are and what we want. So be clear that your choices are send out the signals that you want, and that will lead to the life you imagine.
There are two primary choices in life;
to accept conditions as they exist,
or accept the responsibility for changing them. Denis Waitley
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. Steve Jobs
You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think. From 'A Course In Miracles'